I typically stay in the Mommy Blog realm, but today is National Coming Out Day, and I feel that something should be said on this topic (albeit briefly because one yr old only took a 25 minute power nap and is a wee bit cranky).
Few things piss me off as much as telling someone they are less than a full human, or that there is something “wrong” with them, just because they happen to be attracted to someone of the same sex.
Even more so, when parents don’t accept THEIR OWN CHILDREN for simply being who they are. Sure it might affect the number of grand kids you have someday, but other than that, how could you possibly not accept your child or love your child just because they happen to be gay? Serial killer, I could understand… But gay? You should just want your child to find someone to love who loves them in return. You should want them to be happy.
I grew up knowing my mother would love me no matter what. I am certain to this day, that if I told her I was gay, I would receive nothing more than a hug in response. If I had said this prior to producing grandchildren, I am certain several questions of possible IVF or adoption would also have also been added to the hug. But no matter what, she would still love me and accept me.
I love my children dearly, and short of them doing harm to others, I know that I will always love them and forgive them and accept them no matter who they turn out to be.
Shouldn’t we all do the same?
I hate that fact that the state of Texas – where I currently reside – is so fearful of gays that a proposition was passed preemptively to say that marriage can only occur “between a man and a woman.”
That is a load of steaming cow dung.
I hate that a gay friend of mine – who would be a wonderful father – is afraid to adopt because Texas might pass a law someday that could take away that child.
Nothing made me prouder of my old state of Iowa then when the courts did something right, “On April 3, 2009, the Iowa Supreme Court unanimously upheld the District Court’s ruling holding that there was no important governmental interest in denying citizens marriage licenses based on their sexual orientation.” (taken from wikipedia)
Wow. A ruling that makes sense.
But I think this quote, which I hadn’t heard until today, says it best.
“I’m a supporter of gay rights. And not a closet supporter either. From the time I was a kid, I have never been able to understand attacks upon the gay community. There are so many qualities that make up a human being… by the time I get through with all the things that I really admire about people, what they do with their private parts is probably so low on the list that it is irrelevant.” –Paul Newman
To my friends and family who are gay: I love you whether you are gay, straight, or alien.
And now, I must step off this soapbox and change a dirty diaper.
Amendment on 11-4-10: Sadly, I am now annoyed and pissed off at Iowa. The three IA Supreme Court Judges who ruled that gay marriage was not illegal have now lost their positions in the re-election. This is wrong on so many levels, I might have to have another rant.
I wish I could have voted there. My vote does nothing in Texas.